As I thought about my twenties reminiscently last week, I realized something that brought me to tears. I wouldn’t trade those years for anything. I have cultivated so many friendships, experienced adventures and cultures, made strides in person character growth, felt the pain of difficult moments, learned how to push myself weary for people I cared about and beliefs I held, served in foreign lands, became a part of something bigger than myself, tackled my dreams, completed goals that were difficult to attain, graduated from college, cooked with and for those who I have loved and tried to make my own impact in God’s kingdom.
And as I look back, I’m not sad that I was single. I have such a beautiful decade of amazing adventures and stories to share with others someday. I’m so thankful to have experienced life and learned lessons that will make me better qualified to show true love to another individual. Love isn’t about all the warm fuzzies. It’s about putting forth the time and effort when it’s difficult. Love is about reaching out even when your hand gets bit. Love is about being there even when there are a million places in the world you’d rather be. Love is something that holds back in times but also walks onward too. It can also be walking away when it is time to leave it be at that point in time and walk on alone for now.
I don’t have many regrets at 30. The ones I do have, well I still have time to work on putting them in the “no regrets” bin. I prepared myself much better for my 30th birthday. I am aware of the shortness of my life as I have now officially found 2 grey hairs on my head- what? I’ve begun to realize what things are most important to me. As my friend group grows more intimate, it it also becomes more genuine and full of quality. I’ve learned to say no. I’ve learned some things about human nature that are both disheartening as well as hopeful. And I am always learning, changing, growing and breathing in the world of my Maker.
So here’s to the 30s and what they hold. May we all appreciate every day as it comes.