10 things my parents instilled in me for which I am forever grateful


  1. A faith in God- it’s not their faith now, but I’m thankful for a foundation to know the Maker of the universe who holds my life and happenings in His power.  They taught me where to go for wisdom.
  2. The concept that church is not about a building- it’s about all followers of Christ worshipping all across the world.  It expanded my worldview that there are others like me loving and serving the world around.  No matter where I go, I will have family.  I have blessings I haven’t even ever met yet.
  3. The sense that I’m not entitled- I drove a Buick Park avenue I bought from my aunt for 20 bucks just to say we purchased it.  My brother and sister both had to drive it.  It was not flashy or cool, but it was a first car.  We had to learn the value of driving something to humble us while others got new mustangs and jeeps.  You have to start low on the rungs of the ladder or you’ll fall fast from the top
  4. A love and interest in people- my parents welcome people into their home.  They want to know about what they do and where they come from.  I feel their interest and enjoyment of people has become an integral part of who I am as a person.
  5. Buying from thrift stores and on sale is wise.  I used to be super embarrassed when my mom made us shop at Goodwill.  Now, it’s what all the cool kids do.  Go figure. We hardly ever bought anything new unless it was a solid pair of shoes.  Now I know how to live simply and how to find deals without being in massive credit card debt.
  6. An attitude of gratitude- My mom made us write thank you cards for gifts and thank the host and hostess for having us.  I know now about common courtesy and how that can lead you to have a lasting attitude of gratitude for all you have been given. 
  7. Walking a mile in someone else’s shoes- I despise when my mom tries to get me to see the other person’s point of view when I’m angered.  Ultimately, though, this is helpful in not being a me-centric person.  She tries to remind me that my perspective is not the only perspective.
  8. A healthy work ethic- Because of them, I learned that nothing will be gained without some valiant effort.  If
  9. It’s all a fly speck in the scope of eternity- my parents taught me to focus on the bigger picture which will ultimately minimize my persisting cares and pains at heart in the present moment.  I’m grateful that I am not only living for the here and now.
  10. Less of a focus on technology at home and more on music, laughter and spending time together- I did not grow up with the internet in my childhood home.  I’m not saying the internet is bad.  I used it every single day.  But I’m also saying that we need to consider the time we spend with technology and whether it’s productive or wasteful.  As a family, we enjoy laughing together and swapping stories about our lives.  We find people and circumstances hilarious and love sharing our views of the world around us.  We always shared evening meals together at home and built community in a relaxed setting.  I hope to do the same thing should I have a family of my own someday.

So for all of these and more, I know I’m blessed.

~lme

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4 things you should never put in the hands of someone else


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Your sense of worth– this should belong to God alone and come from Him.  In Him you have meaning, not in someone else.  A human being’s love or lack thereof should never be something that fulfills or destroys you.  “We should not look to be filled with a mate, we should be filled with God.”  -Berry Kercheville.  

Your sense of happiness– they don’t get to be in control of that nor do they have the right to take it.  If the apostle Paul could learn to be content in whatever state he found himself, how much more should I?  “Happiness is a choice that requires effort at times.” -Abe Lincoln.  Are you choosing happiness and positivity today?

Your blood pressure– because they really don’t deserve to take years off your life either.  People will wrong us and hurt us throughout our entire lives.  We can choose to be upset.  Or we can pray for help through frustration and eventually come to a place where we say- they aren’t really worth being upset over.  God gives and then He takes away and ultimately He knows what we need even more than we do.  When angered, think… what can I do to serve instead of following the rabbit hole of how deeply have I been hurt?

Your faith– they can help you get to heaven, but they can’t carry you all the way and vice versa. Friends and family should not hold precedence over your relationship with God.  Putting Him first means putting all others beneath, including career, hobbies and entertainment.  If someone or something is pulling you farther from God than closer to Him, it may be time to reconsider that relationship. 

So take care of your soul.  Guard your heart from evil.  Stand firm in the faith.

~lme

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Fill your cup at the well


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As you age, you begin to realize that all the discouragement you feel in the your imperfect friendships with people is fixed in the perfection of God.  Think about it.  The failings of others are contrasted in the things He does everything perfectly.  Someone doesn’t give you time?  God is always there for you, always.  Anytime you need to talk, He has a listening ear.  When you can’t explain yourself to a human, the Holy Spirit can intercede in the groanings of your soul as you tell God.  People hurt you?  God has good in store for you, despite how hard you’re fighting and failing daily.  When you feel like people only want to use you or abuse you, remember this.  God wants what’s best for you and wants to bring you home.  That’s why he left a book full of love letters and words to help you stay on the straight and narrow.  Relationships will fill you full of questions.  God doesn’t desire to keep you in total darkness.  He says when we search for Him with our whole heart, we will find Him.

So be seekers.  Be learners.  Be strong in the Lord.  Be lovers of good.

Go.  Be.

~lme

Lyrical poetry for your mid-week


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Green

~lme

I pack a punch

Right to the gut

With a song that I wrote

since I only had so much

I live in a world

You have never seen

Ethereal forests

Filled with evergreens

Remember when there was intrigue

In a disappearing act

Where do you go

When the others act like that

I sought advice

in comrades I knew

but they could not console me

in the mystery of you

I will strive for the higher path

No matter how I’m hurt

I seek comfort in someone else

To the man who won’t desert

Filling up the holes

Where the others fall so short

The one who teaches creation

Is the only one who can bind what’s sore

You don’t sing me to sleep

I do that on my own

The silence is my symphony

I won’t take water from a stone

Love must define me

But I must guard my heart

No matter how it unravels

I know I finish what I start

Thursday thoughts and things to think about (the “th” sound)


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10 affirmations to look in the mirror and remind yourself today….

  1. No one, and I mean no one, gets to determine your happiness.  They can’t steal it or conceal it- do not give them that power.
  2. Even if no one laughs at your jokes, you are hysterical in your own right and will find those eventually who will love your humor and wit.
  3. No matter what quirks, glitches or funny personality traits you have, you are beautiful and belong in the world.  And anyone who picks out those instead of seeing you for what you really are isn’t worth your time.
  4. You never have to explain yourself to those who don’t truly care about you.
  5. You can only know what people reveal…. Otherwise, you aren’t a mind reader.
  6. Kindness is a way to live, act, talk and carry out with everyone you meet or have as blessings in your life.
  7. Words and actions must go hand in hand or they begin to cancel each other out.
  8. There’s gotta be a reason that the mind and the mouth were made as two separate pieces.  One should be used before using the other.
  9. Instead of talking about everything you hope to do…. Just go do it and shut up.
  10. Don’t ever believe that you aren’t wonderful, valuable, intelligent or belong in this great big world.  Because everyone does.  Sometimes it just takes finding your niche before it begins to make a little sense.

You are perfectly perfect…. So check out this perfectly perfect song 😉  I’m in love with Elizabeth and the Catapult right now.

Happy Thursday dears…

~lme

More than Enough


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More than enough

by the lovely songwriter from the band, Elizabeth and the Catapult.

Once in awhile

More often than naught

I forget that I forgot

That I got what I got

For a good reason

Though it may not be much

It’s more than enough

Once in awhile

I relax in my seat

I forget what is missing

I kiss fear on the cheek

I feel the light on my back

Though it burns with regret

It’s more than enough

So remember on this mid-week day…. you’ve got a lot to be thankful for…. even if you don’t have all the answers. 🙂

~lme

Come in, the water’s nice


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Standing high above a precipice am I.  And the people below are chanting and calling my name- Jump, Jump they say.  A nagging feeling tugs at me like a string in my back attached to the oak tree a few feet behind me.  The string is saying no and my toes curl under with every sound uttered from their lips.  A rush of fear consumes my body as I peer over the edge at the water below.  But they look like they are having so much fun, bobbing buoys saying come on in… the water’s nice.  If I can just leap once, and then the free fall where there will be no turning back.  The only thing left at that point will be to anticipate the splash.  The submerge.  Of first the feet, and then the water as it climbs up my legs and tickles my abdomen, and the water climbs up to my neck and head and envelops every hair bursting from my scalp as the water overtakes me.  I did it.  I jumped.  When i float back to the surface and resurrect from the watery grave, there they are.  All their smiling, encouraging faces knowing i had one last act of bravery within my body.  We dog paddle around the lagoon with legs and arms in the cool clean water.  The drops of water roll off my arms back to whence it came.  One jump inspires another and another.  I can jump again.  The joy lies just beyond the fear.  Fear pulsating in my ears like a deafening voice can be quieted with just one calm step.  Jump they say.  Jump. Jump.  i wasn’t ready for the plunge.  But in that moment between terror and reckless abandon was a split second of sheer bravery.  So I seized it and ran.

Oh great….. another Valentine’s post


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Ok guys, give me a chance…. i hope this one will actually be more substantial than ways to know if you’re “in the right relationship” or “how to find your soulmate” or whatever other interesting read is out there.  I just have several things on my mind as this blessed holiday of love approaches us once again.  And thanks to my dear friend, Lauren, for sparking some thoughts through some great conversation 🙂

1.  Love has been sadly misconstrued in the American culture.  Love in the Bible does not look like what I see around me.  Materialism doesn’t seem to really be a part of biblical love.  Selfishness is not a part of it.  Pride is not a part of it.  And part of me doubts that we really want to actually “love” someone anymore, because frankly that’s just too hard.  It isn’t about candy hearts and sweet words when it all boils down to the bottom.  Love, true love, is wanting what is best for someone else even if that means I suffer.  It means giving of resources without always thinking how this is going to hurt or help me.  Let’s be honest people, 50/50 is not even a legitimate goal in any friendship or relationship.  So let’s just drop that expectation at the door.  Love is active service.  Love is sitting in a hospital room when there are other things you’d rather be doing.  Love is going the extra mile.  Love is giving even when it hurts.  Love is sharing.  Love is listening.  Love is pulling yourself along on the days when you feel you literally have nothing left to give.  Love is trying to think no evil even when there is anger deep inside that would much rather lash out.  Love requires a lifetime of work and will still leave us with more we can do.

2.  “Your actions speak so loudly, that I cannot hear your words.”  This quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson has resonated with me every time i’ve read it in my life.  Sometimes when we look at ourselves and others, we tend to see discrepancies in action and deed.  It’s like we say things, but there isn’t anything to prove it.  Jesus tells us in John, “If you love me, you will keep my commandments.”  This tells me that love isn’t gushy sweet things or love poems or happiness all the time.  It’s action.  It requires dedication.  It will require is to grow and hurt and laugh and cry, but it will make us better.  And this quote shows me that what we do can be infinitely more important than what we say or what we say we’re going to do.

3.  Love is a choice and a difficult one more often than not.  It’s not easy to walk through the fire knowing you could be burned.  It’s not easy to give to people who are thankless.  It isn’t easy to hope that someone will strive for greatness and do a 180 degree turn.  But we are called to love our neighbor as ourselves.  Knowing the sacrifices and the blessing that God has given us will help soften our hearts toward those who have wronged us and toward those we don’t “feel” like loving at times.  To spend and be spent is the idea of real love.  Support, encouragement and a willing heart will go farther in working toward a goal than a continuous negativity that sees the worst in every situation.  We cannot keep repeating the past and hope that the future will be brighter.  We must change.  We must be willing to stretch our hearts and our arms toward those who at times make loving really difficult.  I think i understand that at times.  Christ came to die for those of us who sometimes turn away from Him.  How hard it would have been to still have compassion on a people who really didn’t want you to even live.  He didn’t shake people and scream at them.  He just quietly strove to love them and give Himself for them.

I hope these thoughts can encourage and give you some positive meditation tomorrow on a holiday that has warped our concept of love.  Happy valentine’s day kiddos 🙂

~lme

the babe of creativity


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A respite.  A haven.  Away from the problems and frustrations of this world.  At the edge of the ivory or near the window of a train.  An escape from the mundane.  To need this is to tap into vulnerability.  To long for this is not distant from divine.  To stand up for this is to speak for something that cannot speak of its own.  Your creativity needs you.  The quiet part of you that longs to be in touch with the Maker.  There is something deep within that says “come here, and see.”  run your fingers in this sand, feel the velvet against your skin, breathe in the salty sea air, pull your knees tighter into your chest…. and sink like a cannonball into your own restlessness.  May i find a forest.  Lead me into the ocean.  My heart longs for all of these majestic pictures of nature, with strings playing behind me as the waves crash against the new england rocks, jagged and fierce.  Do not ignore that voice that says, come sit awhile and make something grand, make your mark on this earth.  Employ thy hands and mind to paint, sculpt, sing, laugh, connect, hug and inspire those who need lifting up.  come show us how to imagine they say.  Come give us hope for we lost it today.

listen, create and share

~lme

How to steal power from the so-called cool kids


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Reading in Galatians, I happened upon the verse in chapter 4, verse 17

“They zealously court you, but for no good; yes, they want to exclude you, that you may be zealous for them.”  Paul talks about how the people who had something over the others in the churches of Galatia would use their selectivity as a cause to gain more prominence.

Isn’t that so true?  The people who think they are supposedly cool only have power because they are in some form of elitist club?  Why on earth would we sell high dollar VIP passes to events or membership into selective golf clubs around the world?  We all want to belong to a group and we want to be super special.  More special than the next guy right?  So how can you steal power from the cool kids, self-deemed?

  1. Take a long hard look at them and know the only reason they have power is because we give it to them.  Power must be given.  And if you unravel them in your mind by affirming that you belong here just as much as they do, you will begin to realize the strength in what you have.
  2. Don’t make it your goal to be in their club.  Instead, strive to be the most true to yourself and who you are, fostering your talents and giving back to the Maker who gave to you.  Why try to grab a bar that you didn’t set for yourself?
  3. Cool is only a word made up by someone to make us think people have it all together.  They don’t.  In fact, the people that seem to be so put together perhaps have more to hide.  And cool and weird and odd all designate a sense of other when really we are so very similar.  If only we looked at our similarities we might begin to see the unity that could be.
  4. If you should get welcomed into a group of these so- called popular kids, remember to continually take stock of who you are and examine whether you are doing things because you want to do them or because the mob mentality deems it so.  And don’t be afraid to stand for what is right even if everyone ridicules you for it or calls you weird.  You aren’t alone. Ever.

Take that cool kids.

~lme

And a song that goes along with this from Echo Smith can be heard here…. Click on music and Cool Kids is the song 🙂